Well, do you sometimes doubt yourself? Well, who isn't ?! But honestly: maybe that's not always so bad ...
Let us not fool ourselves: even the most self-confident person certainly doubts from time to time. And that is not so bad, because with self-doubt it is similar to perfectionism: there are unhealthy types of self-doubt, with which we primarily get in the way of ourselves. But also healthy ones that move us forward, strengthen us and help us to develop. And we should even make the following self-doubts a habit in everyday life!
3 healthy types of self-doubt
1. May I make the problem bigger than it is?
Missed deadline, forgot a birthday, no time for best friend, no money for a great wedding gift, relationship in the end. All things that can stress us animally and give the feeling that a world is collapsing. But the truth is, more than 7 billion people don't notice it at all. We tend to perceive our problems, mistakes, and mistakes as disasters, which are usually trivialities (unless we are the often-mentioned emergency surgeon whose presence depends on human life). So it doesn't hurt to ask us one or the other "catastrophe": Is it really that bad or maybe I am dramatizing a little ...?
2. Do I interpret too much in there?
Who does not know that: someone makes a thoughtless statement (eg: "It would be best for you to have a vacation every four weeks") and we feel very badly attacked by it ("That is to say, I am not resilient? Or lazy ?? "). But in truth, the statement was not meant as an attack at all, but maybe even sweet ("As adventurous as you are, you would need a vacation every four weeks"). Therefore, BEFORE we get annoyed and offended, we could often doubt our interpretation of statements - and just ask if necessary.
3. Does this really have anything to do with me?
Tuesday morning in the office, the sun is shining - and your favorite colleague is totally short and funny. In such a situation, do you happen to immediately wonder what you could have done wrong? Well, maybe you should rather ask yourself if everything is really always about you? Maybe the colleague has stress with her boyfriend, stomach ache or just slept badly. Everyone has so much to do with himself, you are the only one whose life and mood you really have an influence on. We can confidently question whether it makes sense and is right to relate the behavior of others to us put! And also here applies: in case of doubt, just open your mouth!